Your best life NOW

Personal development for so many people can be a constant “on their way” to getting a better life. The time ticks on. “Still no change but don’t worry- it’s coming…”

Let’s be honest – most of us have been here. I know I have. Endlessly studying a technique or theory which would help me be good enough next year- or at least in a few months. The problem with this approach is it doesn’t work and here’s why: you don’t enjoy your life right now (which is where life is always at)- and you also don’t get what you want. Instead,  you’ve got to be a successful actor now before you actually are a successful actor. Confused? Let me explain: I read an article where an early acting teacher of an A-list actor said that her student, the actor, behaved like a star way before he was one. He was still at college, training, but acted like he was already a star. But it wasn’t acting – in his mind, he already was a star.

And that is the secret – you want to find a way to enjoy your life now; be your best self now, rather than waiting until you “make it” and other people give you approval. Because, as they say, tomorrow never comes.

Being your best self now is not to get you anything – it’s because it’s natural; it’s the real you. Who cares what it will get you (when what everyone wants is the freedom to be themselves, now). But it will get you more, even though you won’t need more.

If you are looking at a rich lifestyle from the outside; daydreaming about it from afar – you’re not feeling rich, you’re a fan of the rich. You’re playing let’s pretend and it’s fancy dress. You are beautiful now… or you’re not. There’s no in-between. “On your way” is a myth. What makes you think the shift into the new belief is going to happen tomorrow?

Your Ideal Life Is Now

The life you think you want – the dream partner, dream house, dream job – is just a feeling away. I’m not talking about experiencing it in solid form, but realising it now in feeling.

Going to sleep in your bed at night could just as easily be in your dream house in Kensington as where you currently are (it’s dark and a bed is a bed). You don’t want to imagine yourself in bed – you want to feel yourself in your dream life Now. You could also feel your partner next to you, Now.

In this way, you can get the feeling of it happening – and thus get full satisfaction right now. This is true visualisation.

Creating your best life is mostly about relaxing into your present moment – I repeat this again and again and in my groups and workshops. You can relax now into the Reality of your ideal life – or struggle. It’s your choice. But to be fair, it doesn’t always feel like a choice, especially when you’ve got some thought habits going on.

Mind The Gap

True visualisation has no gap between where you are and where you want to be. The rich get richer – why is that? Because they are already rich. And being rich is a feeling; it’s a state of mind.

When you feel good, drop into your centre where your dream life is happening- now. In this space there is no gap and no thought – just an absolute knowing.

You are amazing now – just as you are. You are already that which you want to be. It’s less about “adding on” or “bettering yourself” to make you more amazing –  and more about dropping the layers of garbage which cover your greatness- and dropping into the mindset which exists now, where you know how amazing you are and are being that, Now. What are you waiting for?